As I regularly do, I took my youngest two children with while I ran a few errands. When we reached our final stop of the day, I parked my vehicle, hopped out of my seat and quickly threw back the sliding back door.
Work out of home – Marketing & Communications Director for all of Alberta’s Ronald McDonald Houses
# of Kids? Ages?
1 Beautiful 16 Month Old Daughter
What movie makes you cry?
Life As a House, Homeward Bound, Toy Story 3 (all three — like tsunami of tear)
Tell us about a mom/dad who inspires you?
My mom – I cannot imagine how much energy she exerted when she was raising myself and my brothers. She was (and is) endlessly creative, allowed us to RUN FREE (she didn’t even bother putting furniture in our living room for five years – we just played in there instead.) But she also has strong morals – and a very strong sense of helping others.
What’s the fondest memory you have of your life as a mom/dad so far? The biggest challenge?
I’m going to cry typing this but – holding my daughter as soon as the c-section was over. I cried, I whimpered, I couldn’t believe that she was in my arms after a very long pregnancy journey. It was completely overwhelming and even now the pure emotion of it can stop me in my tracks.
The other memories always involve how much I love to hear her laugh and chatter. And the way she can give hugs – I can picture a few of those very special moments an done of my greatest wishes is that I will be able to picture them for many, many years. Coming to get her when she wakes up in the morning or at nap time – her cheesy grin plastered across that precious face – and thinking to myself “I cannot believe she is mine”.
The biggest challenge has been coming to terms with the vulnerability it takes to be a parent. Your heart and soul is now out in the world and you cannot protect them (nor do you want to all the time) but the pressure that puts on my own heart and my own anxieties can be really challenging.
Would you rather be able to see 10 minutes into your own future or 10 minutes into the future of anyone but yourself? Why?
10 minutes into my own future — I own my own future, not anyone else’s and I don’t think that I would want to take that from anyone – getting to see before they do. I would almost be nervous to looking into my own future. Now – ten minutes into my own past – I would love that to be able to reflect on some situations where I could have handled things differently. (What a boring answer — but it’s truthful!)
You and your oldest child switch bodies for an hour. What do they do? What do you do?
This would be fun – since our daughter is only 16 months. I would do bathtime to try and figure out why she all of a sudden hates it. I would cuddle with ‘dada’ just to get a glimpse into the adoring way she looks at her father. Or maybe I would just take a nap!
My dear daughter would probably spend the whole time reading grown up books. She might also want to try driving – I’m pretty sure she would try driving.
To all the parents who send cards and gift bags to school for my kids on Valentines Day, thank you. I know the time and effort you put into those cards and if you send them, gift bags, take. Pouring over the lists, sitting with your kids making sure they’re spelling the names right, making sure no one was forgotten.
A few years ago, when my kiddo was only a toddler, I did it. I left for some me time.
SkirtsAfire Festival in Edmonton is self-described as “diverse and daring”. When you visit the festival be prepared to be immersed in powerful, beautiful, engaging performances, exhibits and workshops in Theatre, Poetry, Spoken Word, Design, Art, Dance, Cabaret, Music, Comedy, Yoga, and more.
We have taken in their 2017 & 2018 MainStage Productions. In 2018, The Romeo Initiative, written by Trina Davies was half romantic comedy, half spy thriller, and all entertainment.
Last week I got excited. I was thinking about my health, and honestly, I tried on a pair of jeans that fit nicely not two months ago. They now wouldn’t go over my hips. This wasn’t a matter of washing machine shrinkage and the timing of New Years was purely coincidence – promise. It had more to do with the brie and crackers I was consuming, pretty much daily.
Something had to give and unfortunately, it wasn’t going to be my jeans.
I remember it very clearly, it was my sons 100th meltdown of the evening (or it felt like it anyways) and I was exhausted. He needed more from me than I had energy to give him. He was clearly reaching out…he needed his mom. My tank was empty. We put the kids to bed and I sat down on the couch and just stared out in front of me. My mind was racing; there was still dishes from dinner to do, lunches to make for the next day, laundry piled on the couch and I wanted to order groceries to save myself a trip to the store. Not to mention thinking of the to-do list I still had left at work. There was just so much to do.
There’s a tribe for you.
By Kinia Romanowska
People will tell you that a year on maternity leave goes by quickly.
You may have scoffed at the idea, like I did. Especially when you’re sleep-deprived and have not had a shower in a few days!
But time does fly, and it’s never too early to envision a perfect return to work after baby. Did you know that fewer than 4% of new mothers indicated that taking maternity leave had positively impacted their career?
It doesn’t have to be that way. Taking the time to think about what you want is one of the first steps to plan a more positive transition.
Have you considered putting ink to paper and planning what that would look like?
Photo Credit Maria Flores/Epiphany Design Concepts
“This retreat is like Summer Camp – For Moms!” ~ Maria, Mom of 2
I joined a few friends last year at the Summer Breathe, Women’s Retreat. The retreat took place by Winfield, Alberta at Pure Awareness,about an hour and a half west of Edmonton. To say this place was beautiful is an absolute understatement.