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In Health, Random Thoughts on
December 13, 2017

I quit dieting. Here’s why…

By Francesca Roznicki

“I feel like I’m reaching a place where I don’t really want to focus on losing weight. I know I don’t look awesome. I know I’m overweight. But I feel like I don’t hate the way I look enough to make it a priority. I don’t want to get bigger. But I just wanna eat what I want and not feel guilty about it. Is that insane?”

This was the text message that started it all. That started the shift. That started the fall back to myself.

I sent this message to my husband on a Thursday afternoon and part of me was worried he would come back with something that would challenge my ability to go down this new path. I worried he may say something like “you just gotta keep at it” or “you’re doing great” – something that was supportive but also made it difficult for me to “give up”

But instead, he came back with a response that supported my fall down the rabbit hole of body-positive, self love.

He simply said “nope. I feel the exact same way”

And so that’s where it started.

For years, I have been thinking I loved my body.

For years, I have been thinking because I don’t stand in front of the mirror pointing out my flaws, that that meant I liked myself – never mind the fact that I actively avoided looking in the mirror when coming out of the shower.

For years, I thought because I followed weight watchers- which touts that it is a lifestyle change, not a DIET- that I was changing my lifestyle. I wasn’t dieting.

But I think I also knew that this wasn’t true. I joined weight watchers for the third (Fourth? Fifth?) time, after my youngest son was born in 2016. And a year and a half later, I was only down about 10 lbs – when I wanted to lose 50. I struggled over and over again to “be on track” to “stay committed” and yet nothing seemed to work.

Even though I know that my weight watchers leader talked about loving your body through the journey, self-love at any size etc. I felt like I didn’t “hate” my body enough for that to stop myself from wanting to eat whatever I wanted to eat – and then the guilt would set in and I would religiously track my foods and struggle to find my willpower for 2-3 days before, inevitably, The entire cycle would start over.  This went on for well over a year.

I was so tired of the cycle. I was sick of the guilt. I was sick of wanting to just love my body, but feeling like I couldn’t because it wasn’t “perfect”

So after that text message exchange with my husband, I started seeking out all the body positive, body love messages I could. Pinterest was a great start – lots of inspirational quotes, which lead to book suggestions and blog writers I would love to follow. An hour later, I canceled my weight watchers account. And that night, we ordered Chinese food and I enjoyed it guilt free – for the first time in years. Food without guilt. What a concept…

So while this journey is so new for me, I wanted to share it with others so you can join me on learning to love your body. Below are some suggestions on how to start the body love process – books, hashtags etc. And please, reach out if you have anything to share. I am by no means an expert – but I’m learning and I’m committed to loving my body and helping other women learn that their bodies are worthy of love – just as we are. 

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Reading suggestions (what I’m reading now)

  • The Goddess Revolution by Mel Wells
  • Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls : A Handbook for Unapologetic Living by Jes Baker

Hashtag suggestions (what I’m looking up on Pinterest and Instagram)

  • #bodylove
  • #bodypositive
  • #bopo
  • #loveyourbody
  • #selflove
  • #selfcare

Some of my favourite quotes (what I’ve pinned on my #bopo Pinterest board)

Francesca Roznicki is a married stay at home mom of two boys living in Edmonton, Alta. She has always had a passion for writing but found it hard to commit to regular writing after her kids were born. One day she decided that “starting where she was” was the most important part and now she happily shares stories of her life, crazy mom moments, recipes and more on her blog “Bloom and Bliss” 

In Health, Lifestyle on
July 13, 2017

Don’t judge your worth by your abs. YOU are amazing.

By Laura Barr  

I WAS INSPIRED TO WRITE POST THIS AFTER A DAY OF DOING FITNESS ASSESSMENTS AND REALIZING HOW HARD WE ARE ON OUR BODIES AND HOW DISTORTED OUR VIEW OF PERFECTION IS.

        I remember getting up from a nap while pregnant, I called my husband into the room. “Husband” I said, “look, when I sit up you can see the baby popping out!” I was – to say the least – excited. Little did I realize that my once perfect six pack (just kidding, never really had one due to my love of food and inherited pectus excavatum) was torn down the center from my 70 POUND WEIGHT GAIN (there I said it) with my first and only child. 

Here’s my face pre-pregnancy: 

Here’s my face just before delivery:

Diastasis recti (or DR) is the technical name when your rectus abdominus muscle (the 6-pack muscle) separates – often due to pregnancy. 

The Mayo clinic lists the following as pregnancy related causes of DR:

      • *over age 35;
      • *multiple pregnancy;
      • *baby with high birth weight;
      • *repeated pregnancies.

        Not sure why they left out the “ate two 700-calorie parfaits alone in car on a weekly basis” cause, but whatever. 

Myself and those close to me were certain my baby was to be at LEAST ten pounds at birth. One lady in IKEA even asked me if I was sure I wasn’t pregnant with twins. If I hadn’t seen the ultrasound pictures myself, I may have thought so.

My girl weighed a healthy 7 pounds, 10 ounces. I retained alot of water weight, but mostly I think it may have been related to my stellar baby growing diet. (My OB/Gyn told me at one appointment “okay Laura, you can stop gaining now” as he giggled.) Ahem. 

Me – Pre Preggo:

6 month bliss:

Days before I gave birth:

Folks – this is not a pity party – I actually LOVED being pregnant. Folks were so very nice to me (other than asking if I’d eaten a horse), I ate with reckless abandon, and I didn’t feel like I needed to “maintain” a specific weight / look like I did before due to my job. I felt amazing – so happy and filled with love. And…wait for it…I LOVED my curves. Bonus: doors were opened, seats given up, feet rubbed, pedicures by the month. People said “don’t work to long / hard, can I get you some food?” I have never felt like such royalty.

Then, my little bundle popped out, no epidural, 24 hours labor & 45 minutes of pushing – not bad at all. Happy, healthy, infused with love as I had wished. Six weeks later, I did my first core workout. Plank – what was that hanging to the ground? Ball crunch – what’s that little tent popping up from my belly? Yup, you guessed it – DR. Off to my Physiotherapist. “No crunches, no planking, no overhead barbell / dumbbell, just pelvic floor” yada yada. What? Really? YES. I did not listen. I still have a small tent. 

Although popular literature on the subject recommends TVA contractions (Transversus Abdominis – it holds in your guts or “compresses your abdominal contents”), because that muscle originates partly on the thoracolumbar fascia (back portion of the abdominal weight belt in your low back if you will) contracting it can actually pull the other abs taut – worsening the tear. (True story). I see so many of my clients pushing themselves to “get back their body” as soon as they pop a child out. Sometimes you have to ACCEPT CHANGE and be kind to yourself in the process of SLOW PROGRESS (I’m not yelling, I’m just in an all caps type mood). 

What to do if you find yourself in this position?

  • Get a really good belly band (scuba suit as my dear friend refers to it as) and wear it AS SOON AFTER YOU DELIVER as possible (check with your doc).
  • Don’t do planks or any prone (down) facing exercises like pushups – you could herniate through the tear – not cool.
  • Don’t do a ton of crunches / TVA contractions. See an exercise/rehab specialist.

The point of this post (to make a very long story not really short at all) is that bodies are different after pregnancy. My belly will never be the same as it was prior. I grew a person in it. The other day while in a body work course I am taking, I was asked to bare my abdomen in front of my class. I did it without hesitation. No one groaned, screamed or ran out as I had once feared would happen. I am real, I had a baby in this belly, and I am still a valuable and beautiful human being who will never alter myself to be anything but what I am. WE ALL ARE. 

For more information and things to be aware of with a pregnant body, check out this article.

Laura Barr is the owner of bloomwellness.ca & bloomwellnessblog.com. She is a Registered Massage Therapist, Certified Personal Trainer, Holistic Nutritionist and Therapeutic Exercise Specialist. Her clinic is based in Nisku, and serves clients from Edmonton, Beaumont, Leduc, Nisku & surrounding area.  She is an avid outdoor enthusiast, animal lover, type 1 diabetes mom and advocate and most importantly, she is a busy mom to her energetic young daughter!  Visit her blog.  Connect with Laura: Professional services website: www.bloomwellness.ca , WordPress blog: bloomwellnessblog.com , Instagram , Facebook , Twitter , Pinterest , Linkedin