This is not an easy post for me to write, but in light of recent events, I feel compelled to share a part of my story and some of my coping mechanisms…. So here goes. I’ve been described by some people, as a person who has a lot on her plate. They’re not wrong, it is a lot to juggle.Taking care of two young boys, caring for a mother who has been diagnosed with schizophrenia and early onset dementia,managing the household and having 2 bigger dogs to contend with, holding down a job ( or sometimes 2 jobs) and having a husband that works in and out of town does have me mentally and physically exhausted at times. My emotions get the best of me.
I read an article about a study by Currys PC World that found 37 is the magic age when you’re “too old to go clubbing”. I’m turning 37 in November and I’m very sad to admit, I wasn’t too surprised to hear this.
Now, we all know every person is different, and ask any of my friends, I LOVE to dance. It’s always been my stress reliever – going out with friends, letting loose and dancing the night away. These studies are not exact. If you love nothing more than dressing up and hitting the clubs, more power to ya!
I’ve discovered recently I, myself, would much rather stay in and spend quality time with my besties – preferably in our PJs. Here’s how I make “Moms Night In” awesome – a sleepover.
- The Costco Run. There must be one of these ahead of time so you’re all stocked up. On the list? Wine, maybe some Sangria (cause Costco Sangria is actually really yummy), cheese, chips, cheese to melt on said chips…and more wine.
- Decide who is kicking their husband and kids out. That sounded harsh. One of you can try to convince your husband that taking the kids for sleep overs at grandma and grandpas would be fun, or taking them camping maybe? LOL. Bottom line is, the hosting mom should have as much freedom as the rest of you, no kids to take care of, no Husband to crash the party. This might mean splitting a hotel room, or in my “bestie circle” case, volunteentold-ing the Mom with the hot tub at her house…..
- Get dressed….or don’t? This is the easy part. If you’re already wearing your most comfy clothes, you’re ready. And don’t worry about makeup. Give your skin a chance to breathe, your girls love you just as you are – natural. If you’re feeling really ambitious you can pack a next day change of clothes (and swimsuit for the hot tub).
- Activities – bring em. Cards Against Humanity is awful, but one of our faves. Others we enjoy are Asshole, Scattergories, and 80’s Trivia. Even Poker is great fun. We also usually pick a movie – which is another great Mom’s Night idea, going to see a movie. OR binge watch the newest and greatest on Netflix.
- Order in. With options like Skip the Dishes and UberEats, pizza is not the only option anymore. Just make sure whatever it is, if there are dishes you clean it up together. Again, Host mom shouldn’t be left with a mess, we aren’t 17 anymore. 😉
In the end, even if I’m older, I still need my dose of a good time but I’m embracing this tamer me. Hanging with girl friends, mom friends, it’s a bit like therapy. You talk about you, you talk about them, you laugh, maybe you cry, and in the end, it probably costs less than a session with an expert. Plus all of you have a full cup when you leave, ready to face another day juggling the balls of motherhood.
My daughter was born December 4, 2015 and after a couple months of being a new Mommy, I felt like I needed to get out of the house and make some mommy friends. I did everything… library programs, mommy and baby exercise classes, stroller walks, play dates… I was signed up for every mommy group on Facebook! I met lots of mommies and my daughter was having a blast with all her new, little friends… but I wasn’t feeling a connection to anyone. I would attend all these groups but I would never feel like I was really making friends. Almost 6 months after my daughter was born, I decided to start my own Facebook group. I called it The Mommy Tribe. My group was specifically for any mommies who wanted to support one another, not just attending events a couple times a week but who really wanted to create a community where we could be there for one another and get to know each other’s families.
In September 2016, our family relocated from Calgary to Edmonton. We knew no one in Edmonton. I knew I had to bring the Mommy Tribe here! Fast forward 9 months later and we have almost 70 families in our tribe! The Mommy Tribe isn’t just for mommies, it’s about the whole family contributing to the vision and the success of the tribe, it’s a network of support, friendship and about building community relationships, it’s a village of like-minded people who want to create fun, unique and amazing experiences for their families and have their little ones grow up together. We want the best for each other and we show up for one another. All the families in the tribe have the opportunity to plan events that work for them and their families, that fit their schedule and they are encouraged to think outside the box. Some events the tribe hosts include:
Daddy Needs Some “Male Bonding Time” – Paintball, car shows, golf, and hiking.
Mommy Needs Some “Me Time” – Pedicures, coffee dates and movie nights.
A to Z Drinks & Dessert – A family will plan and host dessert. Guests bring drinks. The theme is drinks and dessert that start with the same letter.
Crappy Dinner Parties – A family will plan and host a simple supper during the week. No extra planning required. Guests show up, they bring nothing, they eat and enjoy each other’s company and they leave when they need to.
Sunday Snack Sample Sessions – Teaching Mommies how to shop for the best-priced ingredients, prepare simple snacks for the week following easy recipes.
Local Business Fridays – The Mommy Tribe ‘s to support LOCAL. All local businesses are invited to promote on our FB page every Friday.Most of our tribe families have heard about the tribe through word of mouth, a lot of the mommies have met through other mommy groups, at library programs and various family events in Edmonton.
The Mommy Tribe started as a support group for all mommies but has now become like an extended family.
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/
Hometown: Castlegar, B.C. but she currently resides in Edmonton with her husband Jeff, daughter Sia and dog, Tango. In June 2016 , the first Mommy Tribe started in Calgary, AB. September 2016, the second Mommy Tribe was created in Edmonton, AB.